Written by Uyoyou Christiana Charles-Iyoha
Humiliation especially in public can create deep
seated anger and resentment in people. Consequently, they look for
opportunities and platforms to get back at the people or person who humiliated
them publicly. Absalom, the brother of Tamar took his time to get back at Amnon
for humiliating his sister publicly by raping her. In due course, Absalom
killed Amnon, his half brother. This led to a series of events which brought
untold reproach and unhappiness in the family of the Biblical King David and by
extension, the kingdom of Israel. Beloved, humiliation does not bring about
healing in families, communities, Churches and nations. It takes great grace to
ignore humiliation especially if the person humiliated has insight of the
character traits and nature of people who take pleasure in humiliating other
people.
A person who humiliates other people especially in
public is most often; usually an insecure person with zero to little self
confidence and self worth which explains why s/he takes delight in humiliating
other people in public. Take for instance a CEO who becomes a CEO through
unorthodox means and unfortunately does not know the rudiments of steering the
organization, lacks direction and focus. S/he will daily pick holes in what
other people are doing even if they are putting their best foot forward. This
is because boss CEO is bereft of the information it takes to steer an
organization, has no vision, no goal, no smart objectives and significantly has
no timelines, no order, just anything goes. Such people take delight in picking
holes in the works of other people just to humiliate them and not necessarily
proffer solutions to whatever challenges they claim to be experiencing. When
tasked to come up with solutions, they become confrontational, angry and blame
other people for their inability to proffer solutions to anything. Rather than
deal with their personal mental incapacitation and challenges, they seek refuge
in humiliating other people, clamoring for respect. Sometimes they resort to
threats and cheap blackmail as well as invectives and pathetically sometimes curses
to intimidate people they think they rule over.
