Written by Uyoyou Christiana Charles-Iyoha
Humiliation especially in public can create deep
seated anger and resentment in people. Consequently, they look for
opportunities and platforms to get back at the people or person who humiliated
them publicly. Absalom, the brother of Tamar took his time to get back at Amnon
for humiliating his sister publicly by raping her. In due course, Absalom
killed Amnon, his half brother. This led to a series of events which brought
untold reproach and unhappiness in the family of the Biblical King David and by
extension, the kingdom of Israel. Beloved, humiliation does not bring about
healing in families, communities, Churches and nations. It takes great grace to
ignore humiliation especially if the person humiliated has insight of the
character traits and nature of people who take pleasure in humiliating other
people.
A person who humiliates other people especially in
public is most often; usually an insecure person with zero to little self
confidence and self worth which explains why s/he takes delight in humiliating
other people in public. Take for instance a CEO who becomes a CEO through
unorthodox means and unfortunately does not know the rudiments of steering the
organization, lacks direction and focus. S/he will daily pick holes in what
other people are doing even if they are putting their best foot forward. This
is because boss CEO is bereft of the information it takes to steer an
organization, has no vision, no goal, no smart objectives and significantly has
no timelines, no order, just anything goes. Such people take delight in picking
holes in the works of other people just to humiliate them and not necessarily
proffer solutions to whatever challenges they claim to be experiencing. When
tasked to come up with solutions, they become confrontational, angry and blame
other people for their inability to proffer solutions to anything. Rather than
deal with their personal mental incapacitation and challenges, they seek refuge
in humiliating other people, clamoring for respect. Sometimes they resort to
threats and cheap blackmail as well as invectives and pathetically sometimes curses
to intimidate people they think they rule over.
Beloved, refuse to be a party to such people
especially when such people resort to divide and rule tactics, putting down
some people in front of other people; praising and doling out carrots to those
who play along with them but who are also empty intellectually. When people use
divide and rule tactics, they are operating the spirit of manipulation to
control the lives of people, to bring people under their subjection even when
they know they have no authority over the people, have nothing to offer the
people. Such people resist anything that will bring down the presence of God,
the wisdom of God upon the people of God. Rather, they like to terrify people
with teachings about the judgment of God rather than the love and wisdom of
God. The whole idea is to control people, bring people under their influence
and control through fear. They operate like cult leaders, always creating fear
and suspicion in the hearts of the people they are leading, telling them to
beware of successful groups who are teaching wisdom and success principles.
Confused, defeated, unhappy, frustrated,
unfulfilled, does not know what s\he is doing and has no idea of getting to
where s\he is going even if s\he knows where s\he is going best describes
people who are in the habit of humiliating other people. They are always looking for easy ways out of
mental and financial challenges, blaming their inability to proffer solutions
on people. They are often looking for what does not exist, are unmindful of
social realities, stuck in the past, and unfortunately looking for self worth
in the approval and acceptance of other people.
Beloved, your self-worth as a person should not be
based on the acceptance and approval of other people. The fact that God loves
you is more than enough reason for you to have great self worth so that you can walk in God's divine purpose for your life and bring healing to the nations through what you are divinely assigned to do on planet earth. Shalom.
No comments:
Post a Comment