Written by Uyoyou Christiana Charles-Iyoha
Avoid the use of negatives. As much as possible, use
positives anytime you communicate whether it is verbal or non verbal
communication. People generally flock to people who speak and act positively
and; avoid people who speak and act negatively. That explains why motivational
speakers and preachers attract large audiences. Nobody likes to hear or see
negative things. Only people who enjoy negativity, people who do not see any
bright side to life would want to see or hear that. However, it is significant
to note that depressed people who hear and see positive things become
transformed. This implies that positive communication brings about healing and positive
transformation. Please see Proverbs Chapter 15 verse 30.
A person’s tone also
communicates success. A gentle tone for
instance reflects the peace, love and compassion of God in the heart of a
person. On the other hand, a harsh tone, to a large extent is a reflection of
the inner turmoil of the heart – envy, anger, jealousy, bitterness, hatred, and
refusal to forgive. Sarcasm is a manifestation of spite, envy, resentment,
jealousy and hatred. It is intended to hurt, wound a person, group of persons, and
organizations with words and tone. A sarcastic person never sees good in other
people. Therefore s/he does not want the happiness of other people and will
always deliberately choose sarcasm as a way of speech. Both words and tone
reflect the anger and resentment in the person’s spirit and mind. Such people
do not communicate success.
A vengeful and vindictive person is likely to always
communicates judgment and evil from God because a vengeful and vindictive person
always want people who have offended him or her to pay for what they done. Such
people usually have no room in their hearts for forgiveness and letting go. Their
communication often creates fear, worry and anxiety. On the other hand, e a
very compassionate and forgiving person communicates mercy, forgiveness, grace,
abundance, creativity and wealth; success, miracles and a healthy reverence and
respect of and for God. Such communication frees up people to heal internally
and externally in addition to help them become creative by the Spirit of God. It
is not surprising that most judgmental people are vengeful and vindictive
especially when they keep harping on judgment.
